Showing posts with label urban living. Show all posts
Showing posts with label urban living. Show all posts

30 October 2012

Tatay Manuel

I don't know how to react to this. Just this evening, as my officemate Dan and I were walking along Ayala Avenue to catch a bus ride home, we saw this old man who was just standing in the middle of the sidewalk, clutching his knees with his head bowed down. I thought nothing of it and we just passed him by. But Dan kept looking back at him and when I turned to look as well, I saw that the old man has not moved at all. He seemed to be in pain so we retraced our steps and ask him if he was okay. The old man told us that his leg was hurting him. He pulled up his left pant leg, and we saw a bandage wound around his left ankle. A result of diabetes, he said. When I asked him why he was walking alone at that time of the night, he said that he came to see his former work mates (he once worked as a construction worker) who were currently in Makati Avenue to ask them if they could lend him two thousand pesos. The money was supposed to be a down payment to a funeral parlor, so he could redeem the body of his 12-year old son and give him a proper burial. His son died from food poisoning after having eaten food he picked up randomly from the trash.

His work mates were not able to lend him money and so he decided to just go back home to Cavite. Since he did not have any fare money with him, he was planning to walk all the way to Walter Mart (which was two rides away from Ayala) where the FX shuttles are, and somehow beg one of the drivers there to let him ride for free. How did you get here in Makati in the first place? I asked him. Turned out he was able to hitch a ride on a truck that was transporting vegetables from Cavite to Guadalupe. From Guadalupe, he walked all the way to Makati Ave. 

He really was a pitiful sight, an old man in his 60's or 70's walking alone in the streets of Makati at that late hour. And since leaving him there seemed like a criminal thing to do, we offered to accompany him to Walter Mart and pay for his fare. During the bus ride, we learned that his name was Manual Ibanez Sr. and that he was a widower with two children aged 14 and 10, apart from his 12-year old son who just died. They were children from his second marriage, which accounted for their young age. His son was already 8 days at the funeral home and he was told that he should pay the bill and get the body already, else it will start to rot and smell. Being poor and unemployed, he went to seek the help of various local government officials but was turned down. He even went to the ABS-CBN and GMA Kapuso Foundations, but learned that help would be granted only after his story was aired in TV and donations came in. By the time the funds would be available, his son's body would already have started to rapidly decompose. His last resort was to seek the help of his former work mates which, likewise, did not turn out to be successful. On top of this dilemma, Tatay Manuel was diagnosed with Stage 4 liver cancer and all he wanted was to take his children with him to his hometown in Tacloban, Leyte, so he could die there in peace, and have his relatives take care of his children. He seemed like an educated man because he was able to utter phrases in fluent English while he was narrating his life story. He never asked us for money or pleaded that we help him out with anything.

Dan took his cellphone number and details of where he lived and the name of the funeral parlor where his son was laid. We gave him a little extra cash so he can pay for the FX ride to Cavite and maybe buy some food for himself and his kids when he gets home. I don't know, call me naive but there's just something about old people that moves me. Surely old men won't resort to lying. They're wise souls, aren't they? His story seemed genuine to me.

After we got off at the Pasong Tamo-Buendia crossing, we flagged down a jeepney going to Walter Mart for Tatay Manuel and bid goodbye to him. Dan and I can only look at each other and shake our heads in dismay at that sad encounter.

But then something came up. After arriving home, Dan texted me that Tatay Manuel's story was on the internet. He forwarded me a link to a Facebook page and I saw this:

  • GoodDay. Gusto ko lang po humingi ng help. Last week po kasi i saw an old man about 60-70y/o, Name MANUEL G. IBANEZ, SR. passing Makati Ave. & i notice na pahinto-hinto po siya tpos naka yuko while holding his stomach, ayaw nman po tumanggap ng help. Tapos kinausap ko po, he told me na hihingi daw siya ng help sa mga kasamahan niya sa Construction financially, matagal daw kasi process sa Malacanang. Kasi he's dying na po Liver Cancer Stage 4. Ayw niya daw po umasa sa help kahit kaninong matataas kasi wala din naman daw. Ang gusto niya lng po eh mai-uwi ung 8y/o son and wife niya sa Province, nakalimutan ko po Province pero by Barko po ung biyahe. Gusto niya daw po PAMASAHE lng. gusto niya po daw "mamatay" sa province nila. Bibigay ko po present address niya if nag repond po kayo sakin sa Cavite lng po siya. Help naman po please.
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Note that this Facebook post was made last October 2011. I googled some more and even found one dating back to 2010.


  • May nakasalubong akong cancer patient kagabi. And my heart has been heavy eversince. Kagigising ko lang. Ambigat sa loob kasi pamasahe lang nya yung naitulong ko kagabi. Kinuha ko yung number, address, at full name nya. Sabi ko kung kaya ko hihingi ako ng tulong. Isa yung DF sa mga naisip ko. Mga ka-DF, eto yung personal info nya. :(

    Full name: Manuel G. Ibanez Sr.
    Address: Block 2, Lot 20, Barangay Lumbreras, Alvarez, Cavite
    Number: 0939-228-0433

    Lumapit na daw sha sa kung kani-kaninong politicians, sa ABS-CBN, sa GMA. Ang tanging naitulong sa kanya ng gobyerno ay parang certificate na free na yung transportation nya. Eh hindi rin nman cncredit ng mga bus. So please, anyone who could, pakitulungan naman. :(

    P.S.
    Illike ko 'tong stat ko para may e-mail notifications ako sa mga magccomment. Please let's do help. Tapos kung may mga ippost kayo regarding this, kindly tag me. Thank you. :(
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    • Madlyn Jazz Merjudio same story. nakasalubong namin xa n mabagal n ng lalakad pahinto hinto while holding his stomach. nakilala ko rin tong manuel Ibanez na to, sbi nya may cancer xa sa liver at stage 4 na, may taning n buhay nya at 8days nlng bngay sa kanya, nakasalubong ko xa last saturday, masama rin loob ko kasi pamasahe pauwing cavite lng ang naibagay ko at konting pocket money at food, sbi ko i'll send him money para makauwi xa sa leyte with his son and daughter kasi wala akong dalang madaming pera that time... super sad ng story nakwento ko sa frend ko to and he told me n nakilala nya rin to 3 months ago, kaya nagduda ako at naisip kong i google ang namenya, nalaman ko madami n xa nabiktima

Like what I said earlier in this post, I don't know how to react to this. Should I be enraged because I was scammed and "victimized" by this old man? I cannot bring myself to say "Beware This Man" because in the first place, he never asked us for help, and if we gave him some money, we did it out of our own free will. He never should have made up those stories, yes, he was at fault with that, but can we really blame him for what he did? What with the neglect our government is showing to the poor in this country? Tatay Manuel probably deserved that money more than I did. I would have probably just spent it on greasy, unhealthy food or on a fancy item at the mall that I don't need. I do not regret being scammed.


29 August 2012

Censored

At a barbecue grill/acoustic bar on Friday night:

Boy: I hope you don't mind if I sit here. I'm (insert name here). You are?
Girl: (insert another name here).
Boy: (pronounces name wrongly), is it?
Girl: No.. (correct name pronunciation).
Boy: Oh, I see.. (utters girl's name correctly, finally)..
Girl: (nods)

(dead air)
Boy: You have a nice name.
Girl: I know.
Boy: You're in the same department with (common friend's name--common friend is sitting right next to Boy), right? Are you her boss?
Girl: Yes and No.
Boy: (laughs for no apparent reason).
Girl: Ikaw? Sang department ka ba?
Boy: Down in (particular floor in the building). I'm with (so and so manager's name) team, handling (so and so designation). Hey...I like this song (moves his head in tune with the beat of the song playing loudly in the background)..
Girl: (turns to face another friend sitting on the other side, talking in their local dialect)
Boy: (after girl turns back to look at him) Oh, from what province are you?
Girl: (province)
Boy: (incredulous look) Really? You don't have the accent..
Girl: Meron yan. Maingay lang kase kaya di mo marinig.
Boy: I swear, it's not halata.. (Province), right? Hey, that's great! I've been there before with some friends. We went to this beach in, you know, (locality)..We stayed in (leisure hotel) for 5 days. We also came to watch the (festival/mardi gras).
Girl: Ah okay.. Nanood kayo ng street parade?
Boy: Ah no. We just went to the after-parties. Inuman with my friends. We just saw, like, the last 5 minutes of the last street dance.
Girl: That's bad. You went to watch the (festival/mardi gras) but you never actually saw (festival/mardi gras).
Boy: I don't mind. (takes a gulp of his beer). Hey.. is it true that (women from the girl's province) are notorious drinkers?
Girl: What makes you say that?
Boy: Hmm, well, I just noticed. They drink all night. Hanggang morning. Grabe kung mag party..
Girl: (shrugs) I dunno.
Boy: (takes another sip of his beer)
Girl: It depends, I guess.
Boy: On what?
Girl: On the company.
Boy: Ahh..

(silence)

Boy: We also went to the (famous local landmark). Yun lang pala yun.. I mean, like, no offense, I thought it was this great historical structure, pero well (slight laugh), it was kinda just ordinary-looking lang pala.
Girl: Disappointed?
Boy: Oh, no. Syempre you must be proud of it (crooked smile). But I love the (famous local delicacy).
Girl: (takes a sip of water).
Boy: Hey..sobering up?
Girl: I'm thirsty.
Boy: Oh by the way, have you ever been to (popular destination in Luzon)? We went there, like, a couple weeks ago. You should make pasyal there sometime.
Girl: Excuse me, I just need to go the ladies room. (exit)

End.

The moral of the story? When somebody mispronounces your name, it's usually a bad omen.

   



21 July 2012

What To Do On A Saturday Afternoon

Throw in a gondola in this picture, and this lovely waterway outside our dormitory in Makati could easily be reminiscent of the grand canal of Venice.


Can anything be more awe-inspiring?